Building skills – whether learning a new language or learning to relate to ourselves more kindly – takes a great deal of time and effort. It also takes a good bit of getting it wrong before we begin getting it right. Getting it wrong or falling down again and again, even from a small height, can deliver new blows to our already deflated self-esteem, thus making it harder yet to persevere.
Also, we all have myriad blind spots, stuck points, and hang-ups blocking our way. Getting started on tasks, assignments, or projects can seem impossible at times. Or, the prospect of making a dating profile seems beyond our reach.
Why? Often we carry around with us archaic narratives about who we are that fuse with our sense of self. If I believe I am unlovable, why would I make a dating profile and face assured rejection, right?